feat(obs): Prometheus metrics on /metrics + golden-signal Grafana dashboard (closes #124) (#129)

## What & why

S-16c, the last of the S-16 (#17) split, on top of the backplane (#122) and distributed tracing (#123). The five .NET services now expose OpenTelemetry **metrics** in Prometheus format at `/metrics`; Prometheus scrapes each (one job per service); and Grafana ships a pre-built **Request path — golden signals** dashboard (traffic / errors / latency / saturation), split by service.

Closes #124

### How

- Each service adds `.WithMetrics(AddAspNetCoreInstrumentation + AddHttpClientInstrumentation + AddMeter("System.Runtime") + AddPrometheusExporter)` and maps `/metrics`. Same shape as the S-16b tracing wiring already in these `Program.cs` files.
- `infra/observability/prometheus/prometheus.yml`: one scrape job per service (`acl`, `domain`, `bff`, `event-subscriber`, `projection-api`), reached by compose service name.
- `infra/observability/grafana/provisioning/dashboards/`: dashboard provider + `golden-signals.json` (baked into the Grafana image by the existing `COPY provisioning/`).
- `verify-metrics` (new CI verify-stack step + Makefile target): generates BFF traffic and asserts Prometheus scraped the golden-signal metric from every service. Mirrors `verify-tracing`.

### Dependency (CLAUDE.md §13/§14)

Adds `OpenTelemetry.Exporter.Prometheus.AspNetCore` `1.17.0-beta.1` (matched to the `1.17.0` core already in use). It gives the OTel-native `/metrics` pull endpoint; replacing it would mean hand-rolling Prometheus exposition over a `MeterListener`; the risk is that it is a **prerelease** package (the whole OTel .NET Prometheus line is `-beta`) — pinned, wired only in `Program.cs`, and gated by `verify-metrics`. Recorded in **ADR-0024**.

## Definition of Done

- [x] Linked Gitea issue (#124).
- [x] Failing test committed before the implementation (`test(bff): /metrics exposes http-server request duration`).
- [x] Implementation makes the test pass.
- [ ] CI green — pending Gitea Actions run.
- [x] `docker compose up` reaches green health within 3 min (backplane images unchanged in shape; not on the health gate, ADR-0023).
- [x] Docs updated — demo-script S-16c entry.
- [x] ADR added — ADR-0024.
- [x] Demo note in `docs/demo-script.md`.

## Notes for reviewers

- `/health` polls are counted as traffic (metrics aren't path-filtered, unlike traces). Fine for a demo dashboard and honest — real load stacks on top.
- `projection-api` has no Stryker config (unchanged); the four mutated services carry the metrics wiring in `Program.cs`, same as the merged S-16b tracing code.
- Metric names verified against a live service: `http_server_request_duration_seconds{,_bucket,_count}`, label `http_response_status_code`, `dotnet_process_cpu_time_seconds_total`.

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Reviewed-on: #129

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 endif
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-.PHONY: ci lint build unit mutation frontend integration verify verify-up verify-acl verify-nrc verify-projection verify-bff verify-domain verify-observability verify-tracing verify-notifications smoke up down local verify-local local-down changelog openzaak-up openzaak-smoke openzaak-seed openzaak-down stack-up stack-smoke stack-down keycloak-up keycloak-smoke keycloak-down flowable-up flowable-smoke flowable-down help
+.PHONY: ci lint build unit mutation frontend integration verify verify-up verify-acl verify-nrc verify-projection verify-bff verify-domain verify-observability verify-tracing verify-metrics verify-notifications smoke up down local verify-local local-down changelog openzaak-up openzaak-smoke openzaak-seed openzaak-down stack-up stack-smoke stack-down keycloak-up keycloak-smoke keycloak-down flowable-up flowable-smoke flowable-down help
 
 ## ci: run the full pipeline — lint, build, unit, mutation, frontend, verify (mirrors Gitea Actions)
 ## `verify` is the live-stack stage (full stack up once → ACL + notification checks).
@@ -180,6 +180,11 @@ verify-observability:
 verify-tracing:
 	bash infra/run-tracing-check.sh
 
+## verify-metrics: assert the services expose /metrics and Prometheus scrapes the golden
+## signals (S-16c), against the already-running stack.
+verify-metrics:
+	bash infra/run-metrics-check.sh
+
 ## verify: local mirror of the CI verify-stack job — full stack up once, all checks,
 ## tear down (always). For fast single-concern local iteration use `integration`
 ## (oz-only) or `verify-notifications` (oz+nrc) instead.