refactor(ci): one verify-stack stage for all live-stack checks (closes #58) (refs #46 #56)

On the single self-hosted runner CI jobs run sequentially, so booting OpenZaak once
beats once-per-job. Replace the integration + notifications + compose-smoke jobs with
one verify-stack job that brings the full stack up once and runs, as clearly-named
steps: health (make verify-up, the DoD smoke) → ACL ↔ OpenZaak (verify-acl) →
OpenZaak → NRC delivery (verify-nrc) → teardown (always) + log dump on failure.

The check logic moves into stack-agnostic runners (run-acl-integration.sh,
run-notification-check.sh) that operate on whatever stack is already up, reaching
services by container IP. The local single-concern wrappers (make integration oz-only,
make verify-notifications oz+nrc) keep working by delegating to the same runners, so
nothing is duplicated. make ci now runs the consolidated 'verify' stage.

Verified locally: make verify boots the full stack once, ACL integration passes and
the NRC notification is delivered, then tears down.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

docs/architecture/adr-0006-integration-test-provisioning.md

@@ -46,10 +46,11 @@ itself. No new test dependency is added.**
   `OpenZaakGateway` against it.
 - **The lane is kept out of the fast checks.** `make unit` runs with
   `--filter "Category!=Integration"`; Stryker is pinned to `Acl.Tests` (`test-projects`), so
-  neither the unit nor the mutation lane needs a live stack. A new `make integration` target
-  (`infra/run-integration.sh`) brings the stack up, seeds, runs the lane, and always tears down
-  — mirrored by a Gitea Actions `integration` job. This matches `make` being the single source
-  of truth (ADR-0005).
+  neither the unit nor the mutation lane needs a live stack. A `make integration` target
+  (`infra/run-integration.sh`) brings up a throwaway OpenZaak and runs the lane locally.
+  In CI the check runs as the `verify-acl` step of the consolidated `verify-stack` job
+  (issue #58) — one shared full-stack bring-up. This matches `make` being the single
+  source of truth (ADR-0005).
 - **Publishing is opt-in in the seed.** `infra/openzaak/seed_catalogus.py` gains an
   `OZ_PUBLISH=1` path that adds the relations OpenZaak's publish requires — two statustypen
   (begin/eind), a roltype, and a resultaattype whose Selectielijst procestype is matched onto