feat(#78): one citizen reference across self-service and the openbaar register (#79)

## What & why

Before this change the self-service confirmation and the openbaar register showed **different** identifiers, so a citizen could not look their registration back up (#78). Now both surface the same **reference**:

- **domain → ACL (write):** the domain `registrationId` is set as the zaak's `identificatie` on `POST /zaken`.
- **event-subscriber → ACL (read):** the subscriber reads the zaak's `identificatie` back through the ACL (§8.1 — only the ACL talks to ZGW) via a new `POST /zaken/reference`, and stores it on the projection row **and** the `processed_notifications` replay log.
- **BFF + openbaar:** the public view exposes `id/status/reference` (never bsn/naam) and searches by id or reference; the register's "Referentie" column shows the reference.

Storing the reference in the replay log keeps ADR-0008's **rebuild-is-log-only** invariant intact — `/admin/rebuild` reproduces the reference without re-reading the ACL.

Decision recorded in **ADR-0012**.

## Definition of Done

- [x] Linked issue: #78
- [x] Tests written first; red → green per layer
- [x] Unit + acceptance green (`make unit`): domain 49, acl 27, bff 20, event-subscriber 19, acceptance 7
- [x] Frontend lint + test green (`nx run-many -t lint test`)
- [x] Mutation ≥ break(90): acl 100%, event-subscriber 100%, bff 100%, domain 98.41% (pre-existing FlowableWorkflowClient baseline, untouched)
- [x] e2e extended: confirmation reference == register reference
- [x] openapi.json + api-client regenerated (drift guard green)
- [x] ADR-0012 added; demo-script note appended
- [x] `Acl__BaseUrl` wired for the subscriber in compose

closes #78

Reviewed-on: #79

services/domain/Big.Infrastructure/AclHttpClient.cs

@@ -11,10 +11,10 @@ namespace Big.Infrastructure;
 /// </summary>
 public sealed class AclHttpClient(HttpClient http, AclOptions options) : IAclClient
 {
-    public async Task<Uri> OpenZaakAsync(string bsn, CancellationToken ct = default)
+    public async Task<Uri> OpenZaakAsync(string bsn, string reference, CancellationToken ct = default)
     {
         using var response = await http.PostAsJsonAsync(
-            new Uri(options.BaseUrl, "zaken"), new OpenZaakRequest(bsn), ct);
+            new Uri(options.BaseUrl, "zaken"), new OpenZaakRequest(bsn, reference), ct);
         response.EnsureSuccessStatusCode();
 
         var opened = await response.Content.ReadFromJsonAsync<OpenZaakResponse>(ct)
@@ -31,7 +31,9 @@ public sealed class AclHttpClient(HttpClient http, AclOptions options) : IAclCli
         response.EnsureSuccessStatusCode();
     }
 
-    private sealed record OpenZaakRequest([property: JsonPropertyName("bsn")] string Bsn);
+    private sealed record OpenZaakRequest(
+        [property: JsonPropertyName("bsn")] string Bsn,
+        [property: JsonPropertyName("reference")] string Reference);
 
     private sealed record OpenZaakResponse([property: JsonPropertyName("zaakUrl")] string ZaakUrl);